Are you exhausted by these endless awakenings and wondering when your baby is going to sleep? If the ideal user manual does not exist, these tips, associated with each other, should help you put in condition for it to finally sleep.
1. Benchmarks are essential
- To sleep at night, your baby needs to learn how to tell the difference between day and night, something he is unable to get out of the maternity ward. He wakes up when he is hungry, whatever the time. Some babies will quickly make this difference, others will take time. It is you, by the routine that you install who will help him. Your baby needs to realize that day is associated with light and noise, and that night gives way to blackness and whispers when you feed it. While he sleeps the day, it is useless to force the whole house to silence. On the contrary, hearing his sounds will allow your toddler to find his way. Yes, throw a machine during the nap, it's possible!
2. Watch out for "microreveils"
- Towards the end of the first month, your baby begins to extend the length of his nights and can sleep for 6 hours in a row. Without making it an absolute rule, specialists estimate that it takes between 3 and 6 months for a toddler to install his sleep rhythms and begin to make complete nights of 8 to 9 hours. He falls asleep now in slow sleep and no longer in restless sleep, with a slow recuperative sleep longer at the beginning of the night, and a slow slow sleep then a paradoxical sleep at the end of the night. Each end of the cycle (every 2 hours) is punctuated by microreveils that last 1 to 10 minutes, during which your baby grunts, sometimes crying, and then doze off. Do not interfere, otherwise he will get in the habit of calling you instead of going back to sleep alone.
3. Nothing beats the good rituals
- To begin your night without difficulty, your baby needs rituals that reassure him and make him understand that it is time to sleep. It's up to you to imagine them and stick to them every night: a story in a low voice, a hug and a kiss, a lullaby.
- Be careful not to take your own trap by introducing rituals too restrictive. If your baby is only falling asleep in your arms, he will need you when he wakes up between two cycles. Even if he gets used to stroking his hair at bedtime, he's likely to call you in the middle of the night.
4. Signals not to be missed
- Put in place rituals, all right, it must be at the right time. In order for bedtime to be at its best, it's important to learn how to decode your toddler's signs of fatigue and not miss the "sleep train". Your baby rubs his eyes? He yawns ? It's bed time. He will then have less of a tendency to "resist" and will fall more easily into the arms of Morpheus.
5. Moments of tenderness
- Cuddle, massage, bath before bedtime ... Between your mother and your girlfriends, each one of her advice for your child to fall asleep without difficulty. There is no magic recipe, all the moments of exchange of quality and appeasement are beneficial. What matters is the quality of this moment of tenderness and your involvement. Watching TV with your baby in his arms will not help his falling asleep ...
6. Respect for bedtime rules
- Lay your baby on his back in a turbulette, and never on the stomach or side, to avoid the risk of sudden death of the infant. The temperature of his room should be about 19 ° C. His bed should be as bare as possible. Do not give it a pillow or quilt, and do not put a bedstead too thick (prefer fine cotton). For the same reasons, avoid the pile of stuffed animals in the bed, a blanket will be enough to comfort him.
7. Is he crying? Not in your arms!
- Beware of bad habits. You just put your baby down and he starts screaming? Although it is very tempting, and especially hard to resist, do not intervene right away. Give him a chance to fall asleep alone. If that does not work, enter the room to make sure it is ok: a rot may be annoying? He lost his pacifier? If so, repeat that it's time to sleep reassuringly. If the crying continues, make brief appearances so that it feels that you are there, but especially do not take it in your arms. Put him in his bed to sleep and take him in your arms five minutes later: the message is paradoxical for your little one. What does he have to do ? Sleeping or hugging?
8. We do not shift bedtime
- Your child took weeks to set his pace ... so do not try to change it, even slightly, to hope for a late morning. If he calls you at 6 o'clock in the morning, it's because his internal clock is set that way. If you sleep later, he will wake up at the same time more tired, having missed a sleep cycle.
9. The cosleeping? To avoid
- With the tiredness of the first few weeks, you have become accustomed to falling asleep with your baby in your bed ... It's tempting, but doctors however recommend avoiding cosleeping as much as possible. In fact, you risk obstructing your breathing and causing sudden infant death. However, nothing prevents you from placing the cradle next to your bed for practical issues (if you are breastfeeding for example). He will be close to you, but in his own space ...
10. What about grandma's tricks?
- Flour in the bottle at night to sleep? This remedy of grandmother will be in no case a solution: "Your child will be satisfied, reassured, but it is a mistake.The risk of weight gain is real and it is not advisable to introduce flour too early in food, "says Arnaud Pfersdorff, pediatrician. Plants: orange blossom, chamomile, on the other hand may be advised by your pediatrician.
Should I consult?
Your baby is still not doing his nights 6 months? Although there is no rule, at this age, he should be able to sleep for hours without waking, unless he is still breastfed. Ask yourself: is there anything going on in the family so that your child does not sleep? Does an event disturb him? Does your child see you enough? If you're already gone when he wakes up in the morning and is already in bed when you come home, you may simply miss him. Does he sleep too much during the day? If this does not improve, talk to your pediatrician.